One of my greatest goals throughout this entire trip was to get to Morocco. This was for a number of reasons. I know several people who have gone there and all have really seemed to love and rave about it. I suspected it would be really culturally interesting and beautiful, and the food would be delicious, and it would give me the sense of being somewhere truly foreign that I haven't
really had up til now. I mean, some things have definitely been different, but I sort of wish I could have done this trip 50 or 100 years ago, before globalization really took off. But that's another story. I expected Morocco to look and feel more profoundly different from my experience than Western Europe did. I also have a goal of getting to the 6 continents besides Antarctica before I turn 23, and this way I could count Africa. :)
So, Sara and I planned to spend the week we had after my short-term lease was up and before she heads back home and I head back to England to see my friend Mia (at last!) traveling to/in Morocco and Portugal (where we both booked flights out of Lisbon). But that was just about all we planned-- ahead of time. Moving day was a hectic combination of trying to figure out where to go next and how to get there while simultaneously packing up all of our stuff (half of which had recently been stewing in a lake of water the washing machine produced).
Sunday Nov. 29 we struck out on the road again. We took a train toward Algeciras, one of the Spanish port cities that is closest to the Straits of Gibraltar and Morocco. We had a little confusion when the train stopped 2/3 of the way there, but we eventually figured out what the conductor had tried to tell us in Spanish when we got on, that we needed to transfer to a bus in the village Ronda. This was because from there the route was along these crazy winding mountain paths which we rode along in the dark. We didn't get to Algeciras until about 11 pm, and the city was weirdly shut down and deserted by then. It took a while to get our bearings and find the hostel we had booked, but when we did find it it turned out to be a real little gem. It's a family owned and run place, and the family was extremely sweet and charming. The room was clean and came with a private bathroom and a balcony.
We got there late enough that we couldn't really get anything to eat, so we had a pretty sad dinner of a can of tuna each and some raw pasta on my part (Sara insisted it was terrible for my teeth, but I thought it rounded out the tuna pretty well.) The next morning we grabbed some breakfast and made for the ferries to Tangier.
As it turned out, the ferry was reasonably indicative of some of the things that would be different in Morocco. It didn't leave until almost an hour after it was supposed to. The men who had sold me the tickets (aside from the whole ticket-selling operation being vaguely sketchy) had told me it would take about an hour and a half to make the crossing. It took more like 3.5. Another one of those 30-40 year old men whom this trip has taught me to be more wary of approached me and talked to me for a while on the ship's deck. After I realized that he was making Sara nervous and upset, I eventually broke off the conversation, but I do feel like I learned some interesting things from him. I was careful not to tell him where we were staying when he asked, though, and sort of talked around his suggestion that we meet up while we were in Tangier, and I was fairly alarmed when we happened to pass him on the street a few days later, though I think it was just a coincidence. Sara also pointed out that there were comparatively
very few women on the boat.
This was definitely a recurring theme. Every time we went out and about in Tangier, we saw about 10 or 12 times as many men as women. There were a bunch of restaurants and tea houses that seemed to be entirely male zones. We had been warned, and we went in anticipating some unwanted attention for being two young white western women with uncovered hair, but it was definitely worse than I was expecting. I am generally dismissive when I hear about other people's fears and discomforts with this kind of thing. I pretty much always feel safe and confident wherever I go, I am used to feeling this way, and it is pretty hard to make me feel otherwise. But something about the situation in Morocco really did make me feel nervous, edgy, dis-empowered somehow.
It felt like every man we passed was openly staring at us, that most of the younger men were mocking us or trying to intimidate us, even if all they said was "Como estas?" It was the way they said it. It was the way that they felt they could say anything they wanted to us, even if it was totally obvious we wanted nothing to do with them. It was the fact that even a young boy, probably about 12, on the back of a motor bike felt he could yell something to two adult women with utter impunity. There was just something about the situation that felt deeply unfair, and it made me angry, and what made me even angrier was that there was nothing I could do about it. I am not used to being powerless to change a situation I don't like. But what could I do? This is a foreign culture, where I can scarcely communicate. I was there only a few days and had no way or opportunity of changing any of their attitudes or even discovering in a more scientific way what their attitudes even are. And perhaps it would have been ethnocentric and wrong for me to try.
Suffice it to say, I didn't fall in love with Morocco the way I planned to. It sort of rubbed me the wrong way from the minute we arrived. It didn't help any that our hotel was not "a short way from port" but actually well over 2 miles out of town. We tried to walk there with the directions I had, but we eventually got tired of lugging all of our heavy stuff that far, especially as the sun was setting and it was getting cold, so we hailed a cab (with difficulty) and rode the remainder of the way, which turned out to be just a few meters by then.
I have a strong suspicion that I would have liked other towns in Morocco better. I have heard several reports that Tangier is one of the less interesting and desirable cities to go to, that Marrakech, Fez, Meknes all would have been much cooler, and probably even Casablanca and Rabat would have been more enjoyable, especially as I had connections I might have been able to use to stay with people in those last two. But all those cities are also much deeper in the country and harder to access than Tangier. It also happened to be a big week-long festival, the festival of sacrificing sheep, the week we chose to go there, so most businesses, museums and authentic Moroccan restaurants were closed.
Eventually Sara and I decided that since we did not have that much time to travel, we hadn't really made any plans ahead of time, we didn't have even a guide book or much idea of what we were getting ourselves into, it was not an ideal time to visit anyway, and the misogynistic culture made us uncomfortable, we would go back to Spain and try and see the Rock of Gibraltar (high on Sara's to do list) and get to Portugal a bit sooner, rather than trying to delve deeper into the nation we were in. I would like to go back to Morocco one day and give it another chance--but I think I would like to have someone who knew the country, culture and language better than I do along with me.
We did have one day of mostly fun adventures. We wandered our way into the Medina and Kasbah of the town. Upon entering the Kasbah we were greeted by a man named Mustafa, who spoke to us in English, told us the tourist office and museum were closed, but that he was there to meet us, and then proceeded to give us a private tour of the neighborhood. We had sort of hoped to avoid this kind of thing--namely, getting hoodwinked into paying someone some unknown amount for a service (such as guidance) that we had not technically asked for. But in the end, I think it was for the best. He was very nice and showed us a lot of cool interesting things including Henri Matisse's house and what he claimed was his tomb (we're not totally convinced), some very old mosques, some beautiful views, and a restaurant that the Rolling Stones used to hang out in.
The tour took a turn for the sketchier when he brought us several stories up into a co-op, then left us with two strange men while he went off to pray. These men wanted to sell us a handmade woven silk/camel wool rug from the desert. They showed us several, showed how these were high quality, could not be pulled apart like the machine made kind, could not even be burned by a lighter. They also brought us some sweet mint tea, the drink of choice in the region, also called Berber Whiskey (since they don't drink real alcohol). I quickly fell for this drink and had at least 5 more cups in the next 24 hours.
Sara decided to go for it, and we started to barter. She feared for my life when the man suggested €290 and I suggested €10. It was a tense moment. But eventually she settled on a price they were both reasonably happy with, and we did not become corpses or hostages. All in all, it was a very exciting little tour. The streets were very narrow, winding and confusing, we definitely would have gotten lost and not understood as much if we had tried to tour the Kasbah on our own, and we would have encountered a lot more discomfort because of the men around us than we did with a guide. For that alone it was worth what we eventually paid him.
Despite all the challenges, we did get to try some delicious spit-roasted chicken on a sandwich and couscous before we left. We got to see a bunch of young children carrying a lamb around like it was their job. We had a beautiful view of the sea from our far-away hotel. We even saw a camel! Which may have been the highlight for me. And we made it back to Spain with a few more dry clothes than we had when we left.